Family on your wedding day
Getting married is the very start of a whole new family – bringing two special groups of people together to celebrate the marriage of a happy couple. With this being true, it is very important that all members of the family are represented in your wedding, so that they are able to feel a part of the celebrations. This is even more important if you have people coming from all over the world to attend your wedding. It is not uncommon to have family on the other side of the globe who have had to travel for several days – so it is great if they are able to be a part of the day when they arrive.
At this time of the year, with the Christmas season in full swing, family is more important that ever. With a Christmas wedding around the corner, you may find that you’re spending a lot more time with your family than you usually would, meaning that you are able to make the most of this. Weddings are always magical, but at Christmas you have the opportunity to truly cement family ties and make each and ever person a key part of the ceremony.
One thing that family members may wish to do is to help with various aspects of the arrangements. For example, if you know that you have an Aunt who is a talented baker, you may like to entrust your wedding cake to her. Or, if there is somebody who is in a band, you may wish to ask them to play at your wedding reception. Many family members are happy to help, but it is important that you are able to find a way in which everybody can do this. Some people may feel as though they are being left out if they are not asked to be involved while others are being given several jobs that they can do.
However, it is equally as important to make sure that your family do not feel overwhelmed. It is common for the parents of the happy couple, particularly the bride’s, to be so involved that they become too stressed to enjoy the day. It can be a great idea to hire professionals to help with a lot of the arrangements, and just give small jobs to your family. This means that they can add their own special touches to the day without feeling as though they have too much to cope with.
Another thing that you could consider is asking your family members which songs they would like to be played during the wedding reception. If you know that they have a favourite song, it can be nice to play this, as it means that they have something in the proceedings that they know is especially for them. If your parents are happily married, you could even think about playing the music that they danced to on their own wedding day, as this is a great way for you to be able to represent the love that you were raised with.
The speeches are another chance for you to say a little something about everybody who means a lot to you. This is a wonderful opportunity, as you can thank everybody who has helped you, and say anything that you feel you should about those who mean a lot to you. However, you should be careful that you don’t miss anybody out – as people may feel excluded if the names of other family members are mentioned without theirs being included, too. It is a good idea to write down the names of all of the guests and read through the list before you write your speeches. This way, you can be sure that you are not going to miss anybody out who should be on the list.
At any wedding, particularly at Christmas, family is the most important part of it – whether that is celebrating the family you’ve always had, or celebrating the family that you’re creating. It is important that you make them feel involved, as the memories of your wedding will be warm and can last forever – a little gesture can mean a great deal. Your Christmas wedding really can be merry and bright, with some forward planning into how each family member is going to be involved.