Need help with speeches at your wedding? Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered!
Let’s face it, giving a speech can be nerve-wracking. Most people would, given the choice, rather fight off a lion than stand up in front of people and give a speech! But with a few tips and tricks, you can make it a breeze.
First, consider having the speeches before the meal. This way, the speakers can get it out of the way and enjoy their food and the rest of the day. Just make sure to let the caterers know so they can adjust the timings.
Speaking of timing, having a trained Master of Ceremonies can make all the difference. They’ll grab everyone’s attention and introduce each speaker, making the whole process smooth and organized.
And to make sure everyone hears the speeches loud and clear, I can provide sound-checked, cordless microphones. Plus, I’ll even advise the speakers to practice with a run-through during the cocktail hour, to help settle any nerves.
I also make sure the Photographer is ready and that one of the Ushers has been instructed to round up any guests not in the vicinity.
Now, let’s talk about the actual speeches. you’re not expected to memorise your speech! Cue cards with bullet points are a must to keep you on track. Avoid reading from a script verbatim, as it’s hard to engage with the audience. And please, keep it concise and interesting – nobody wants to listen to a long, rambling speech.
Bridegroom Tip – If you have guests from different countries, impress them by learning a key phrase in their language and welcoming them to your wedding.
As for the order of speeches, it usually runs as follows:
The Father of the Bride (Though this may be the Mother of the Bride, an Uncle or Brother in his place).
He thanks everyone for coming and those involved in the organisation of the wedding. Be very careful not to forget anyone or you could use the caveat “and everyone else involved in making this day special”. He then normally refers to a few affectionate anecdotes about the Bride and then welcomes the Bridegroom into the family. The Father of the Brides toast is “to the Bride and Bridegroom”.
He thanks the Father of the Bride (or equivalent) on behalf of himself and his new wife (normally getting a cheer from the audience at the mention of the new wife!).
He then goes on to thank the guests for coming, his parents for raising him and the best man for supporting him. It’s at this point that you’d present any gifts such as flowers for the Bride’s and Bridegroom’s mothers, gifts for the Bridesmaids etc.
He then says a few words with regard to his new wife.
The Bridegroom’s toast is “to the Bridesmaids”
The Best man.
He is expected to read any emails, letters or messages from friends and relatives who couldn’t make it to the wedding. He then goes on to tell a few stories and anecdotes relating to the Bridegroom, that should be lighthearted, fun, and maybe, slightly embarrassing. These should include how they met, their friendship and end with a few compliments for the Bride.
They should not be rude to the point of offending any of the guests.
The Best man’s toast is “to the new Mr & Mrs ………..”.
Sometimes, the Bride herself or the Maid of Honour may also make speeches.
Top Tip – ask for the speech makers’ toast drinks to be served last, that way, they know that everyone else has been served and know when to start.
I hope these tips have given you some ideas and alleviated your worries about speeches at your wedding. Enjoy your big day!